What do you think about unmarried women advising on marital issues? When Cardi B filed for divorce my Facebook feed was flooded with comments. Much of it was in regards that single women shouldn’t be advising Cardi on what to do about her marriage. Below is a link to Twitter reactions. Many claimed to see the divorce coming.
https://blackamericaweb.com/playlist/twitter-reactions-to-cardi-b-divorce/item/1
I’ve been in my marriage for 5 years now. With 5 years under my belt, I’m definitely qualified to talk about marital issues now.
Looking back there was a time when I shouldn’t have been advising a married woman. When I was unmarried, single, about 29 years old, an older married co-worker was talking to me about her husband. Basically, she was unhappy. He wasn’t the best husband. She didn’t say he was cheating, but there weren’t many good things if any, that she said about him. It was always, “I wish my husband…” or “My husband doesn’t…”. During one of our conversations, I finally said, “Just leave him!” My mindset was that if you’re not happy, leave.
At the time I had no idea of what marriage was really like. I was too busy minding my unmarried business. I regret giving that advice now. In case you’re wondering. She didn’t leave. She’s on social media today and in my opinion “faking the funk”. I say that because recently she shared a post about him getting her flowers with a nice card. I read the card since she posted it. Lo and behold the card was written in her own handwriting.
Trust me I know. I was like wow, she’s lacking self-love. See my self-love post here.
Why she stayed and continued to be unhappy, I don’t know. Maybe it’s for their child. She’s a teenager now. Maybe when the child turns 18 they’ll divorce. That does tend to happen.